Social media permeates every aspect of our lives. There’s always a new trend to join in on or comment section to throw your two cents in. But, in some cases, posting online can be corrosive to your relationship. Avoid posting these 15 things about your relationship online to keep your partnership strong.
Embarrassing Photos or Videos
How many times have you laughed at those couple’s prank videos where one party looks humiliated? Or found yourself chuckling at someone sharing something embarrassing their partner did? While it’s funny to be on the outside looking in, imagine if you were the one being humiliated online. If you record something embarrassing, don’t post it unless you have explicit permission from your partner.
Personal Arguments
We all find ourselves in the occasional spat with our significant other. Hopefully, we can resolve any issues that crop up with compassion and communication. But this will be a lot harder if you share your woes online for the world to weigh in on. Handle conflicts in person and don’t go to the internet for validation.
Intimate Pregnancy Details
Welcoming a baby into the world is a magical experience that will bring you and your partner closer together. While you may want to shout every milestone or struggle to the rooftops during this time, you might want to resist. Sharing the occasional update is absolutely fine, but you may take away from the moment if you’re documenting and sharing every little thing. Live in the moment and enjoy this special time with your significant other.
PDA Overload
Believe it or not, most people don’t want to see you and your lover making out on their timeline. While it’s tempting to share every aspect of your love online, it’s important to consider professionalism and decency too. Just imagine your boss stumbling across your page only to see you and your S.O. swapping spit. It’s not a great look!
Where You’re Going on Vacation
Travel is an amazing experience we often can’t wait to share. But anytime you’re planning a trip, be sure to wait until you’re home to share your photos and travel blogs. If you share your trip while it’s happening, it’s obvious that your home is unattended. This could allow bad actors to break into your home while you’re not there.
Embarrassing, Low Moments
Low points are inevitable. Maybe your partner’s car breaks down or they lose their job. Whatever the case may be, they are likely in an extremely vulnerable place. It’s your job to be a steadfast person to lean on in these difficult seasons. The last thing you should do is use this as an opportunity to make a social media post about their woes. No one wants their low moments spread around online.
Idealistic False Life
We’re all guilty of embellishing our lives a bit online. But it can feel really strange when someone really lays it on thick. If you’re constantly posting about how much you love your significant other, all the fun you’re constantly having, and how perfect your life is, you’re setting a strange precedent for the relationship and might resent the natural, not-so-picture-perfect times in your partnership.
Overly Racy Content
Every couple has a different standard for what is appropriate to post online. However, the debate on bikini pictures is far different from explicitly posting racy content directly aimed at getting attention from other people. Explore this line with your partner and be sure they are comfortable with the types of photos you’re sharing online.
Anything Secretive
Secrets are corrosive to any relationship. While personal space is a totally appropriate boundary, having social media channels your partner doesn’t know about that you’re posting on can get messy fast. If you’re posting something online and you’re hoping that your partner doesn’t stumble across it, you should rethink that choice.
Play by Play of Your Relationship
No one needs to know every little detail about your life or your relationship. Posting every update, every high and every low, opens up a world of opinions that could complicate your relationship. Comments may pick apart how you and your partner do things and even if you two should be together in the first place. It’s best to leave the most intimate details of your relationship between you and your partner.
Family Drama
It’s normal to have some complicated feelings about your in-laws. However, going to TikTok to share your harrowing tale of dealing with your partner’s family drama will not do your relationship any good. Be discerning about what could potentially come back to your partner and hurt them. Even if they have a complicated relationship with their family, it’s still important to respect their role in your partner’s life.
Breakup Saga
Once a relationship ends, you don’t necessarily owe that person anything. You may feel a host of emotions–sadness, loneliness, anger. But remember, you are severing a chemical bond cold turkey. Your feelings will be in an extremely elevated state. If you take to Instagram or TikTok now, you will probably share a lot of things you don’t actually mean. Take some time to heal and step away from your phone.
Too Much Family Content
Forming a family with your partner is a special journey you are likely to gush over. Tempting as it may be, try to keep the family content to a minimum. Your kiddos are too small to understand the implications of being online until they’re an adult. Respect their privacy. They may not appreciate you sharing photos of their bare baby bottom when they’re older. You should also be wary of strangers having so much access to information on your family.
Anything Your Partner is Uncomfortable With
If your partner expresses discomfort with any kind of content they aren’t comfortable with, it’s time to have a conversation. Ask yourself, why am I posting this? Am I okay with not posting this or is this a deal breaker? You deserve autonomy over what you post but if you are in a loving, healthy relationship, be considerate if your partner has concerns over your online behavior.
Anything That Gives You Pause
If anything you post gives you even an inkling of a pause, you may want to consider skipping it. Maybe it’s a hot take no one asked for or an overshare about your relationship. Regardless, listen to that little voice inside your head telling you that it might not be a good idea to post something.
