There was a time when kindness and being polite weren’t considered outdated. Getting to the heart of it, etiquette isn’t about being prissy or acting superior. It’s about showing consideration, respect, and being nice to others. With our list, you’ll see that some things should come back and be a part of our future.
Listen
Active listening is something that will never go out of style. If a person is speaking, you should give them your full attention. Ask questions and let them know you care about what they’re discussing. In a world that is all about rushing and not having time for people, this could mean more than you know.
Taking Time Away From The Phone
Putting the phone down during meals or conversations is another area we should focus on. Being present is one of the best things we can do for ourselves and others. Not only do you improve your mental health, but you also build stronger relationships with those around you instead of pushing people away.
Offering Your Seat
If you see someone who needs your seat, you can offer it to them and get up. If the person wants it, they can take it; if not, then they won’t. Either way, you were sweet for offering. It can also be a nice gesture that turns someone’s day around if they can reach their destination in comfort.
Hostess Gift
A hostess gift doesn’t have to be big or fancy. It can be something as simple as a bottle of wine or something like bath bombs. It’s just something to let them know that you appreciate being invited over, and it’s a way to thank the hostess for all of the work she’s done.
Dressing Appropriately
This doesn’t mean you have to be overly fancy, but it does mean that when your family or friends invite you out, you can take a few minutes to trade the ripped jeans or gym wear and show the person that you respect the occasion. There are certain events that require you to be more elegant, and you can’t wear regular clothes.
Stand During Introductions
When you meet someone for the first time, you should stand up. It sends a signal to others that you’re willing to meet people and that you’re eager. It shows people a kind side of you that reflects well on your character because it appears that you’re a welcoming person.
No Gossip
This isn’t just polite; it’s also good for you to escape the pettiness you don’t need to be around. However, it’s still polite to walk away from gossip, and it’s easy. Simply excuse yourself from the conversation or decline to get involved. There is no need to tear others down for no reason, and you never know the truth about someone’s situation.
Hold The Door
You shouldn’t drop the door on the person behind you. It shows both consideration and thoughtfulness. The reason people do this is that it helps others move through their day quickly, and some people may actually have trouble with doors—holding it can help them. Small gestures like this can make someone’s day go a lot better.
Overlook Things
If someone has something embarrassing happen, chances are they know it and are hoping that no one says anything. For example, if a grandmother has an accident and you can hear it too, it’s polite not to mention it. The other person already feels bad; you don’t need to make it worse.
Holding Conversation
Now, if you’re introverted or shy, this can be hard. But if you can hold a polite conversation with people, it goes a long way. Just be careful what you say. With family and friends, you can say pretty much whatever you like. Not so much around strangers or people you’re just meeting, so stick to safe topics.
Coasters
Some use them, and some don’t. However, if you’re at a hangout with friends, a dinner party, or some other occasion, there are going to be thirsty people and drinks that cause rings or marks on furniture. If your host decides not to use them, you’ll still be considered a great guest just for asking.
Don’t Barge In
People shouldn’t have to worry about whether someone is going to invade their space. It’s rude and, frankly, annoying. You should always knock before entering someone’s space, and if you have coworkers that don’t, you can see why you should. It’s best to show respect for people’s privacy (although parents may have different rules on privacy).
Be On Time
Circumstances happen, and sometimes we can’t be on time. That’s understandable. However, if you can, be punctual. People who are consistently late can be incredibly frustrating because they slow everything down and cause issues for others. If you know that you absolutely cannot make it in time, call and let them know.
Return Things
We’ve all borrowed something at one point, right? But the key is returning it. Everyone has had that one neighbor who borrows a plate and never returns it, or borrows a rake, a cup of sugar, etc. The issue is that people can be forgetful at best and inconsiderate at worst. If it’s a genuine mistake and you’ve forgotten, that’s one thing, but if you’re holding onto it just because, that’s rude.
Don’t Be Loud
If you’re in public on a bus, waiting in line, etc., no one needs to hear about Aunt Margie’s toe surgery or Shelly’s hot date. Those things are personal, and honestly, unless someone is eavesdropping (which is also rude), no one is going to care about what you do. In public, it’s best to keep your voice at a reasonable volume.
Better Manners
Having better manners doesn’t mean that you’re high and mighty or think you’re the best. It simply means that you’re trying to be a better person—more polite and caring toward those around you—which is a good thing. With our list, you can be more polite, more open, and more welcoming.
