We all have different opinions and ideas about how to make our country a better place, but that doesn’t always mean you have to share them—especially if your friend doesn’t share your political views. Conversation topics may feel like landmines; navigating them could mean the difference between peace and war. So let us help you. Here are 15 topics to avoid should you want to remain friends with your political foe.
Reproductive Rights and Abortion
Kicking off with one of the more obvious controversial topics. Republicans and Democrats stand divided on many issues, and nowhere else is that divide more evident than in the view of abortion. Most Republicans believe abortion is wrong and should be illegal, while most Democrats think women should have the right to choose. So, don’t bring this up with your friend.
Immigration and Illegal Aliens
Another issue widening the bipartisan divide is immigration and illegal aliens. Republicans want undocumented immigrants deported, while Democrats want leniency granted to natural-born children and asylum seekers. You and your friend likely disagree about what is best for Americans. Talk about your favorite movies or TV shows instead, and keep things cordial—don’t cross that line.
Racism and Racial Inequality
Republican voters and Democratic voters disagree about racism and racial inequality. The former believe the issue has been resolved, while the latter think it’s still a major problem. Activism in the past couple of years has brought to light injustices imposed on marginalized groups. Whichever side you lean toward, don’t color the mood with this loaded topic.
Past Two Presidential Elections
Few topics are as emotionally charged as the outcomes of the last two presidential elections. Voters received the results with wild convention over the validity of votes. The fastest way to raise both your blood pressure is to bring up either of these elections. Just talk about anything else, seriously.
Gun Control
Gun control is another issue that boils Democrat and Republican blood. Leftists believe guns should be illegal, while G.O.P.s want their right to bear arms protected. In light of recent school shootings, it’s best to avoid this politically charged conversation topic. Avoid anything that pertains to guns—unless you’re looking for a verbal shootout.
Government-Funded Social Programs
Government-funded social programs offer financial assistance to those in need. This includes food stamps, Social Security, and Medicaid. Although we can agree on its altruistic intention, Republicans and Democrats disagree on its effectiveness. More or less, Republicans oppose and Democrats support these programs. So, dance around this topic if you’d like to remain friends.
The January 6th Insurrection
Many people disagree about what actually occurred on January 6th when Trump supporters forcefully infiltrated the White House. Some say it was a great act of patriotism; others say it was a coup. Either way, it’s a touchy subject that should be avoided. Politics make people emotional—talk about something else, like cats or your children.
Political Correctness/Incorrectness
Society has learned to be more respectful toward historically marginalized groups. Terms that were once common in describing women, African-Americans, homosexuals, or persons with disabilities are now considered derogatory, and most people avoid them. Unfortunately, not every person received the memo—some continue using politically incorrect terms. While polite reminders are encouraged, don’t be surprised if they get defensive.
Covid-19 and the Vaccine
The pandemic was a troubling time filled with anxiety and uncertainty. It didn’t help when leaders and other prominent figures spread misinformation. Some people refused to believe COVID-19 was as dangerous as media outlets portrayed it, while others believed the vaccine caused autism. Whichever you believe, I suggest avoiding this topic altogether. We can still respect one another even though we disagree.
Foreign Policy and Affairs
Unfortunately, the world is teeming with conflict. From the wars in Ukraine and Palestine to trade sanctions and embargoes, it’s difficult to remain neutral. People have strong opinions about the US’s foreign policies and involvement in global affairs. If you and your friend enjoy political debates, feel free to discuss these topics. Otherwise, it’s a great way to sour the mood. Try to keep the conversation light and steer clear of this nuclear topic.
Freedom of Expression
The First Amendment in our US Constitution declares that citizens have freedom of expression—the right to speak or publish their opinions and ideas. This privilege holds our government to a high standard and is part of what makes America great. However, in recent years, issues of censorship have been brought up with the rise of misinformation. On social media, it can be hard to determine the truth, so respectfully censor yourself to keep the peace.
Mass Surveillance
The National Security Agency admitted it was spying on Americans. While it was presumably for safety concerns, the conduct was deemed unconstitutional. However, some Americans still believe they are being watched despite the outcome. With the ubiquity of smartphones and continuous internet access, it’s hard to shake the feeling that Big Brother is out there. Talk about something else—besides, someone could be listening.
Climate Change
Despite the overwhelming scientific evidence, some people still believe climate change is a hoax. Many Republicans and Democrats argue about the validity of the threat. Whichever your stance, please don’t bring it up. Although it is hard to avoid, the weather makes for great small talk. Plan an outdoor activity like biking, walking, or swimming—oh, wait, it’s winter.
The American Economy
One of the biggest voter concerns during the last election was the economy. Inflation is still at an all-time high, and the cost of eggs has skyrocketed. Many citizens are concerned about the state of our economy. But do citizens really know how it all works? Neither do I. Don’t discuss the US economy with your frenemy; you’ll likely disagree.
Nationalism
Donald Trump campaigned under the slogan “Make America Great Again.” Meant to ignite patriotism, the left criticizes it by warping its meaning—arguing it signifies a return to a time of slavery. Don’t bring up how you feel about America when you’re getting coffee with your political foe. People have strong feelings; unless you’re in the mood to spar over politics, talk about something lighter.
