Females are often seen as two things: gentle or domineering. This isn’t always the case. But some women develop traits, become skilled at manipulation, and make everything about themselves. To protect yourself from dealing with this, here is our list of 15 traits narcissists exhibit so you know to avoid them.
Fault
A narcissist will never admit fault. They’ve never done anything right, and in many cases, they’ll spin the situation so that you end up blaming them. In various situations, a female narcissist will always try to pin the blame on someone else and deflect attention away from herself. This causes fights and pain to those around her.
Social Media
Because narcissists are obsessed with themselves, they tend to be obsessed with social media as well. They love posting selfies, getting likes, followers, etc. The imaginary world created by apps and media becomes addicting, and they want more. The problem is that the image they’ve created is so strong that they don’t want to stop, and they can even begin to do dangerous things to themselves or others to maintain that image.
Bullying
Bullying isn’t just for kids. Adults do it, too. Narcissistic women may not be physically aggressive (though some are), but that doesn’t mean they won’t get dangerous. Bullies don’t have to use fists; the words they use and the tactics they employ can be even worse. Gossip, rumors, manipulation, gaslighting, and more are tactics they use instead.
Validation
Female narcissists like admiration and attention. People try to develop a genuine sense of confidence, but many narcissists lack the confidence or self-assurance that comes from a healthy place. Because they don’t have that inner strength, they need a consistent, never-ending cycle of reassurance, compliments, and constant validation to know that you approve of them and aren’t leaving.
Empathy
A lack of empathy is a further issue. A person can appear loving and kind on the surface, but unfortunately, the truth is darker. Female narcissists have a distinct lack of empathy unless it benefits them. If there is something for them to gain from the conversation, they engage; if not, they become dismissive and show no interest.
Flattery And Love Bombing
At the beginning of the relationship (or during the honeymoon phase), a narcissist will overwhelm someone with love. It sounds fantastic, right? To be loved so completely? The problem is that too much attentiveness, intensity, and a barrage of sweet words isn’t genuine. This overwhelming devotion creates emotional dependency, and a person eventually won’t know what is real emotion and what is fake.
Creating Competition
Everyone should uplift others, but this disorder ensures that females view each other as competition instead of as friends. Instead of being sweet to potential friends or nurturing existing relationships, they give backhanded compliments and jabs, picking away at a woman’s confidence until there’s nothing left. At work, they can even sabotage or steal projects and credit.
No Stability
Female NPD sufferers often don’t have stability in their lives, affecting aspects such as employment and relationships. The more unbalanced they are, the more serious their traits appear, and their instability becomes increasingly obvious.
Sensitivity
Females with NPD are more emotional. That means they’re far more reactive and sensitive. Condemnation isn’t taken well, and if they believe you’re being rude, criticizing, or rejecting them, they perceive that as a personal injury. This sensitivity makes them prone to having hurt feelings, taking extreme offense, and becoming moody, angry, or shutting down.
Vanity
People with NPD seem to suffer from vanity. Studies show that vanity appears to affect women more, and female narcissists are more preoccupied with their physical appearance. They don’t like when you say unflattering things about their body, looks, or anything of that nature. This disorder could lead them to pursue botox, cosmetic procedures, eating disorders, or other ways to “fix” their appearance.
Being Aggressive
Passive aggressiveness or outright hostility are other tactics they will use. If they’re mad at you, they can punish you with silent treatment, manipulation, or other methods to tear you down. Sarcasm and hurtful words will often accompany this behavior, which is one reason why NPD sufferers have trouble in relationships.
Perfection
NPD also makes people excuse their own faults and flaws while setting inconceivable standards for others. Female narcissists demand flawless loyalty, constant admiration, flattery, and that you speak to them with the best intentions. The problem is that they rarely hold themselves to those same standards; what applies to you doesn’t and won’t apply to them in their mind.
No Apologies
It’s infrequent that a female suffering from NPD will admit fault. Because they don’t admit fault, they don’t apologize. Doing so would damage her carefully crafted image and ego. You could have a list of everything the person has done wrong, but that wouldn’t matter. The blame remains yours, and the situation has nothing to do with her.
Physicality
NPD in women can also appear through charm, seduction, and manipulation. Female narcissists tend to use their physical appearance or intimate relationships as tools to manipulate their targets. This can lead to financial manipulation or cause their relationships and intimate interactions to become parasitic. If they’re not in a relationship, they can use physical attraction and romantic encounters as a way to leech off strangers to gain additional support.
Shyness
Shyness is another way that NPD can materialize. Someone who is a covert narcissist will appear insecure, quiet, and shy. They don’t automatically come off as rude, arrogant, or entitled. If low self-esteem, insecurity, or similar traits appear alongside other characteristics of narcissism, it’s probably more likely that the person is a covert narcissist.
Know What To See
When you haven’t been around narcissists, you don’t know what to look for. With our article, now you will. When dealing with people like this, remember that it’s not your fault—it’s the disorder affecting a person’s attitude. Just stay positive and don’t let the words they say hurt you.
